Last night I was busily cleaning house when I realized that Grey’s Anatomy was on. I missed the first few moments, but turned it on to find McDreamy “rescuing” Meredeth from certain drowning in her bathtub. Please, dude. It’s a bathtub and she wasn’t drowning herself. Go shave. The episode was pretty good, but I don’t know if we really need an Epic Three Part Event. I mean, how ER can you get? Yawn. I think the show is great on its own merits and shouldn’t have to pull these stunts. P.S. I can’t watch Isiah Washington without thinking he’s a jerk.
One episode this season featured a couple, expecting their first child. The woman had fallen down in the shower and just wanted to make sure that everything was okay with the pregnancy. It turned out, in the end, that everything was not okay. The doctor had to induce labor and the woman had to birth her fetus, which was no longer alive. This scene was heart-wrenching and something I had not ever really considered before. I hadn’t really thought about losing a late term pregnancy and what the aftermath entailed. I was sobbing by the end of that scene because it was so moving.
Yesterday at work, I got a call from a woman on my hockey team. She had called to tell me that the captain of our team, who was 16 weeks pregnant, had lost her baby. They will be inducing labor today. This is devastating. She had a child three years ago. She had an early miscarriage last year and now this. A miscarriage is so hard, but having to go through the birthing process? I can’t even imagine. And I realize that it’s lame to even bring up an episode on tv, but it gave me a snapshot of what happens and that visual of the woman going through labor and screaming in physical and emotional pain is just… what’s sticking with me while I think of my friend.
So what do you do? Nothing can help. Nothing can comfort. The team wants to do something for her, but we just don’t know what.
Something About Something 
wow, sweety…what a tribute here to your team mate…that you felt those feelings and thought about her and wrote them here….i’m sorry for her and for you. I know that helpless fealing quite well. I know it sounds corny but there is an enormous amount of comfort in simply not being alone. Just being there is all some people need. Just your presence and a hug or two. when she’s ready…
we lost someone from our office this past week…Monday. Kathy’s dad, who came in every day for donut holes and coffee with us. His wife died in october. last thursday, he went into the hospital and i went to visit with him. he seemed fine but he was ready to go. all of his children came from all corners of the country and when they gathered in his room, he laid his head back and said, “I think I’ll just rest now.” And he did. I can’t believe he’s gone. I only knew him a year. they were my valentine feature story last year. this year, they’re together again.